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If I Slap Or Choke My Bit_ch It’s Because I Can’t Beat Down The Opposing QB


If I Slap My Bitch It’s Because I Can’t Beat Down The Opposing QB

What does it say about the modern day male athlete, when they believe themselves to above the law ? Once again another athlete runs afoul of the law-having been caught in another bout of domestic violence. In this case it’s San Diego Chargers’ defensive lineman Shawne Merriman has been arrested for domestic violence and the case of aggravated assault against his girlfriend, tv personality and reality star , Tela Tequila (Nguyen).

Chargers defensive  lineman  Shawne Merriman  seen  here  on the  sidlines  during  an  NFL  game .    picture  appears  courtesy  of  ap/photo/ Matthew  Guest  .....................
Chargers defensive lineman Shawne Merriman seen here on the sidlines during an NFL game . picture appears courtesy of ap/photo/ Matthew Guest .....................

All this comes with the preseason about to reach its culmination. And with the regular season about to commence. It once again puts the NFL in the spotlight for all of the wrong reasons. PR nightmares come and go ,and in many respect they wane, only to surface again. NFL Commissioner, Roger Goodell ,for all of the tolerance shown. He, now has to get tough with the players and not let this all be left to be debated in the court of of public opinion. And no doubt we’ll hear the usual perfunctory round of apologies from Merriman as to his actions. One can’t help but wonder what sort of message that this sends around the league and in particular to the fans.

Merriman shoots a Powerade commercial alongside several sports stars.

One also has to take the stance and ask of NFLPA Executive DeMaurice Smith , why it is that he hasn’t been proactive with the regard to the behavior of his members. I’ve read and the opinion of several former NFL players who’ve felt that this is merely an everyday occurrence that’s no different from outside the everyday actions that takes within many domestic households. Well when I last looked or read , I certainly didn’t hear of a situation where you had a domestic partnership. Wherein, the male in that partnership was essentially physically abusing his female partner , merely because she failed to answer him. But one could excuse that behavior, one supposes, because this isn’t the act of a man. But if anything it’s the action of a conceited coward !

Tv  reality  star   Tila Tequila       picture  appears  courtesy  of  vh1.com /Paramount Entertainment   copyrighted  material   @  all  rights  reserved ....................
Tv reality star Tila Tequila picture appears courtesy of vh1.com /Paramount Entertainment copyrighted material @ all rights reserved ....................

For the San Diego Chargers’ management and its ownership. This is hardly the headlines that the franchise would want to be reading and then having to be answering questions about. And given the fortunes of the franchise over the last few years where they’ve essentially underperformed. Merrmiman , for his part is coming off a cloud of suspicion and a four game ban last season along with an injury. But that’s besides the point, as the player’s actions there was of his own volition. But does it set Merriman now in a new light as to how he views himself ? First,as an athlete and then as a member of the public ? It comes down to perception. And if anything these are the questions that really need to be asked and answered. It’ll be interesting to see the action that may well be taken by the NFL and if anything that of law enforcement. We’ve seen the idiocy of the legal establishment as of late. And we’ve also seen the nonchalant attitude of the NFL and how it deals with the transgressions of its members. It’d appear that Commissioner Goodell actually feels it appropriate to arbitrarily mete out justice as he sees fit without about as much clarity and purpose as either Opus Dei or that of the Roman Catholic church and how it dealt with the sexual abuse scandal of young boys. It’s either a slap on the wrist or complete punishment that’s meant to be a deterrent to others. But on the face of it, it’d appear that as of now there’s very little deterring what’s happening on the path of the players and their behavior.

Courtesy of Yahoo Sports and Associated Press :

Chargers LB says he didn’t harm reality TV star

By Bernie Wilson AP Sports Writer

San Diego Chargers star outside linebacker Shawne Merriman says he did not harm tv reality star Tila Tequila at his home early Sunday and he added that he was concerned for her safety because she appeared to be intoxicated.

Merriman was arrested and accused of choking and throwing Tequila to the ground as she tried to leave his home in surburban Poway. Tequila signed a citizen’s arrest warrant charging Merriman with battery and false imprisonment. Both are felonies.

Merriman spent 2 1/2 hours in a downtown jail before posting bail.

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Shawn Merriman for his part now has to prove to the public and the rest of the NFL that this was an isolated incident. But no doubt as this comes to the public forefront, we’ll see what transpires. It does however, act as a precursor as to what we’ve so often witnessed with an athlete and his behavior. It’s been the usual perfunctory apology and then and public apology to the public. Can we now come to the conclusion that these players now feel that they’re above the law and are entitled ? And it’s not as if the NFL and the NFLPA have been proactive at all in dealing with this issue. The NFL has always been primarily concerned with its image and making money. But primarily about making money ! Everything else becomes secondary for its hierarchy ! As to the behavior of its members they’re about as concerned as the vast majority of politicians are about the constituents that they’re said to represent. Which begs the question can we actually trust either, to uphold the image and spirit of the custodianship of the bodies that they’re said to represent ?

Bi-sexual reality star ,Tila Tequila seen here on the Season 2 finale of her eponymous show ‘A Shot At Love 2 With Tela Tequila’.

And while I for one don’t doubt the talents of Merriman as a player. What I do doubt are the choices that he now makes as an individual in the privacy of his own home. And then looks to absolve himself of his responsibilities when it comes to his acting like a man ,then as a professional athlete. If he thinks it appropriate to act like a thug in the confines of his own home but then as a player on the field of play conducts himself as we’d come to expect. But in effect, then expects us all to overlook one act as fitting, as it should be. Then the other hand act as if it were just a slight lapse in judgement then there’s clearly something that he’s missing. As to what that might be ,I’ll leave that up to you to decide.

NB : Nguyen is set to address the public and the press as to the events that took place. As to what her statement will allude to. One can only surmise that it’ll be something that may well contradict the statement made by Merriman.

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24 thoughts on “If I Slap Or Choke My Bit_ch It’s Because I Can’t Beat Down The Opposing QB

  1. From what I’ve seen out of her, if he says that he was trying to restrain her from driving her vehicle drunk, than I’m prone to believe him.

    Once again, time will tell us the truth… maybe.

  2. I’m sorry you’ve lost me here Alan…You’re going out of your way to label Merriman guilty, before ANY of the facts (other then the arrest itself, and a single statement)have come out. I’ll understand if you don’t sit around and watch episodes of Tila Tequila’s TV show, however if you had, you would quickly see that she massive issues, no doubt centered around subsistence abuse. And further more Merriman could very well be telling the truth. You, me, and everybody else on the outside looking in on the situation through the media outlets of TMZ etc. have zero ability to make a definitive call either way.

    You’ve jumped the gun here.

    1. dyslexic (Tony)

      I’m not going out of my way to blame Merriman. But in this case he’s at fault as well. He’s allowed her to consume that much alcohol and granted we’re talking about grown adults here. But do you not think that there’s something awry when he’s the one who’s been arrested in this case ? Think about it . Furthermore why did the police place him under arrest if he allegedly committed no apparent crime. I know that in the case of domestic violence there’s the proclivity to detain one party. But that’s only done in the case where law perceives there to be an imminent danger.

      Furthermore Merriman is no saint himself when it comes to being upfront with the truth. Who the hell believes an athlete nowadays when they state “…. I wasn’t aware as to what I was ingesting into my system’ ? Have you forgotten about the four game ban imposed by the NFL against Merriman ?

      Alan Parkins

  3. Chris Humpherys

    Look at the size of Merriman and then look at the size of Tequila (Nguyen)? Not that I’m against him taking any action to restrain her. But there has to be a certain amount of veracity behind the police arresting him for a reason don’t you think ?

    Alan Parkins

  4. Research is key…..People are stepping forward who saw her wasted, there were no marks of any kind on her, he was drinking water all night by all accounts. And in California among many other states, there are no questions asked by police when a women reports any kind of domestic complaint, the arrest you immediately and start an investigation afterwards. So no, there doesn’t have to be any veracity for Merriman to be arrested initially.

    http://sports.yahoo.com/nfl/news;_ylt=AhkrVQrGfaBC8I1K7MsWpp85nYcB?slug=ap-merrimanarrested&prov=ap&type=lgns

    1. Tony I’m well aware as to that particular situation. I work in a law office but with regard to coporate law. But the firm itself is a full service law establishment. As to the facts of-course they’ll bear themselves out in good time. But at the same this is just another incident where a player has fallen afoul of the law. And this hasn’t been the first time that Merriman has been placed in such a predicament when it comes to a female . So I am not putting this out there as a piece just to elicit a response.

      I do make a point of doing my own research before I do a piece to begin with.

      If anything it serves a warning to the NFL and its so called pristine image.

      Alan Parkins

  5. I’ll say it again, your entire post was an attack on Merriman…and ZERO facts have been made public. You’ve jumped the gun here.

    1. Where’s the apparent attack on Merriman ?

      Have I besmirched his image ?

      If you read the last paragraph of the piece I state that it’ll come down to statemements made and what’s purported to be the truth. And no doubt it’s always somewhere between the two sides and what they believe in their own mind to be true.

      Alan Parkins

  6. You more then allude to the premise of your entire post in the first two sentences, and then follow up the rest of it with similar statements:

    “And no doubt we’ll hear the usual perfunctory round of apologies from Merriman as to his actions.” (Not if he is innocent you won’t)

    “It’ll be interesting to see the action that may well be taken by the NFL and if anything that of law enforcement. We’ve seen the idiocy of the legal establishment as of late. And we’ve also seen the nonchalant attitude of the NFL and how it deals with the transgressions of its members.” (assumption of guilt)

    “If he thinks it appropriate to act like a thug in the confines of his own home” (Slanderous allegation with no facts)

    “Then the other hand act as if it were just a slight lapse in judgment then there’s clearly something that he’s missing.”

    All I’m saying is this post assumes facts about a situation lacking any cold hard knowledge yet. And people are on record in the press saying he may be innocent.

    1. It’s a given fact that they do believe themselves above the law. But herein lies the rub as to the argument. If as it’s being alleged that both were in fact consuming alcohol prior to them arriving home to Merriman’s abode. Where the party carried on. Then things no doubt got out of hand. Albeit that this whole scenario will run the gamut of he said …..she said . At the end of the day what you have is another athlete in the bull’s eye and the NFL seeing its image once again up in flames. How much more are the fans and public expected to tolerate ?

      As your sentence so clearly points out the presumption of innocence. But at the same time what does it not suggest to you to begin with ? Any man who raises his hands to a woman given his physical attributes had better be sure he knows what he’s doing from the onset. Be it in restraint or not. In the case here it has added even more to the whole issue facing women up and down the country when it comes this very subject matter.

      Alan Parkins

  7. It’s a given fact that they do believe themselves above the law? All NFL players view themselves above the law? Bold statment to broad stroke across the NFL landscape.

    Also there are public accounts that Merriman WASN’T drinking the night of the incident.

  8. How many of them having been involved in an incident have you actually witnessed step up to the plate and admit wrongdoing ?

    Look at the likes of Ray Carruth , Donte’ Stallworth , Leonard Little and even Ray Lewis ? Each of them were in complete denial as to their duplicity in a crime.

    Alan Parkins

  9. Donte Stallworth??????????????????????????????????????????? NFL, MLB, NBA….Hell even John Daly and the PGA….Every sport has players who can be faulted for straying on the wrong side of the law. Sorry, I don’t see the connection.

    1. Donte Stallworth , yes Stallworth. If you saw his interview on ESPN’s magazine program E:60 . Stallworth when questioned on the accident that took place shied away from the fact that apart from his consumption of alcohol on the night. He’d also been smoking marijuana which apart from his BAC of .0126 had to have been a contributing factor in Mario Reyes’ death. And he went on to state that his actions in that regard were in no way to be thought of as a contributing factor in an individual’s death. If that’s not denial then who’s he kidding ?

      As to the athlete what’s the first thing that you’ll always see with them ? The usual asinine attempt to seek empathy from the public as to their actions. They’ll trot out the members of the family and at the same time have someone there gloss over their many attributes as to what a wonderful person they are.

      What’s inherently wrong here is not just the athlete’s actions but the softly , softly approach we so often see taken by the varioius sports governing bodies when an athlete runs afoul of the law.

      You state that a witness claims that Merriman hadn’t been drinking at the club prior to the incident ? What about at his abode where it all took place ? And even if Nguyen had been drinking does it still allow him to lay his hands on her in the context that’s being alleged ?

      Alan Parkins

  10. In regards to Stallworth, what are you talking about? This link alone refutes your previous statement: http://sports.espn.go.com/nfl/news/story?id=4381138

    Again, ZERO public knowledge is available about Shawn Merriman and his arrest. Your post was chalk full of presumptive assumptions about his actions and inherent guilt. The subtext of which you claim he believes he is above the law because he is an NFL player.

    You’ve jumped the gun on your thesis.

  11. His appearance with Smith ( on E:60) he vehemently denies his actions pertaining to his smoking of marijuana in any way played a part in the accident. He freely admits however as to actions pertaining to his drinking. And with regard to the link and his meeting with Goodell , that was prior to his sit down with Smith on the ESPN magazine program .

    Alan Parkins

  12. Let’s see what happens in a court of law. I don’t believe either of them. The truth some where in the middle. I don’t know

    1. Bobbygee

      I doubt that this’ll ever get to see the light of day within the justice system to begin with. It’ll end up wit some kind of perfunctory statement at the end of the day.

      Alan Parkins

  13. If by that you mean, having a drunk, pycho, reality TV loser, make false claims to the police about you while in a jealous drunken stuper ? Then no I would agree there is no excuse for it…. 🙂

    1. dyslecix

      At this moment in time this whole episode is behind me. We’ve hardly done anything here in the office that has been productive. In large part we’ve all sat around reminiscing about the events of 9/11 . It’s hard to believe that it has been eight years since this horrific attack.

      More so it hit home with me because not long after my younger brother and his combat unit with the Royal Corp of Engineers – with the British military were off to Afghanistan. And from there he went to Iraq.

      Thankfully he has now lived to tell the tale and return home to his wife and the rest of our immediate family !

      And with me now residing here in the US and with several friends now there in both Afghanistan and Iraq. I hope that they’ll all return home safe.

      I know what it’s like to be on a battle front having seen action with the British military in Ireland and then on the African continent as part of a UN peace keeping force.

      Alan Parkins

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